God’s greatest miracles play out in and around us all of the time. After my parents lost their first child, there was a huge wound that couldn’t be healed. After they had my older sister and older brother they thought that the best thing was to adopt to kids, Synthia and Robert. They were siblings that had been in foster care for some time. They were in the middle of the process already for adoption. My mother was pregnant at the time as well and my family was preparing for a baby. They had clothes picked out, the hand-me-down crib already out and the room halfway set up. My parents went in for my mothers monthly check up. Everything went how it normally went, until the doctor hesitated for a moment. He said, “Oh! I think there’s two heart beats in there!” My parents were in awe. My parents thought that it was a gift sent from God that they were blessed with two girls after they had lost their first child. We have no twins down the line in our family so everyone in our family was in shock. After they had found it out they immediately went to the program they were adopting from and to let them know that they can’t go through with the adoption any longer because they had twins on the way. Because of the loss my parents had went through and because of the chances that she would be having identical twins were close to nothing, I am reminded about everyday how I am a miracle to my family sent from God.

 

 

Throughout all of my years of school, I was put into the same classroom as my twin sister twelve out of the thirteen years. I am very thankful that my mother had requested it all of those years. It had helped us grow in some areas, like homework, making friends, and never having to deal with the fear of being alone. Although my sister had relied on me a lot, I think that twins should be put in the same classrooms. Our old high school principal wasn’t really a fan of twins being in the same classroom and strongly encouraged that we be separated. My mother refused. There have been laws put into place to eliminate a placement policy for twins. I had pulled from an article written by Nancy L. Segal, professor of Psychology and the director of the Twin Studies Center, “Parents say that despite explaining to school administrators that their twin children work well together, enjoy each other’s company and/or do not wish to enter a new situation on their own, school officials remain unsympathetic.” I’m not sure why there are even rules set by the school because no one besides the parents of the children know the relationship between the set of twins, but it shouldn’t be up to the school to decide whether they are separated or together. The school thinks it helps with learning to be an individual, to which I say they’re wong. I came from a school where girls didn’t get along very well and so my mother wanted us to be together so that we always had someone. The one year that my sister and I were separated was miserable for the both of us. Nancy Segal had also mentioned in her article, “Often they just need to be aware of where the other one is. This is more common among identical than fraternal twins, but can be true of twins of any type.” I think that this is to be true as well. I believe that twins develop this sixth sense after spending time together, especially having a close relationship like me and my sister. The option to be separated or not should be left up to the family itself rather than the school. If a set of twins are more comfortable with each other to be in the same classroom, they should not be separated.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/twofold/201107/twins-in-the-classroom

 

For my first eight years, everyone could’ve seen me matching from head to toe with another human being, my twin sister. We’ve been the best of friends since we were born. We are inseparable. I hear all the time “Oh you’re so lucky! I wish I had a twin!” And although they are right; yes I got super lucky getting to grow up with my best friend, but once I got to high school, I noticed that I had gotten my individuality stolen from me. We share the same interests in almost everything, we have a lot of the same friends, and we barely spend any time apart. But as I grew up, it finally hit me that I wasn’t necessarily my own person. Instead of “Amelia Faust,” I was known as “one of the Faust Twins.” Everywhere we would go together it was always “The Faust Twins.” Twins and Individuality: a Parent’s Perspective, Kelli, a mother and author of the page, writes that there seems to be two basic schools of thought on the matter of becoming an individual. The first one is that individuality in twins must be encouraged and the second is that individuality naturally develops on it’s own with twins. Identical twins, have a distinctive bond, by sharing a womb, accomplishing every milestone together, and looking the same by having similarities in their appearances. I personally think that it naturally develops on its own over a period of time. I believe that in order to find yourself as an individual being a twin instead of always being a pair, you have to go out of your comfort zone and learn to experience things on your own. At the end of the article they say that, “twins are unique individuals, but also unique because they are twins. Both aspects should be embraced.”